A Heartbroken Poem – It Cannot Fix a Breakup

By Honey B Wackx

A breakup can be so disheartening that one may try anything to mend the relationship. A nice heartbroken type of poem may seem to be the answer. When you have suffered through a breakup, it would seem that such a poem or similar quotes would fix things.

No, it will not fix things and probably won’t make a difference, at least a positive difference. If you want to get back together, forget the heartbroken poem and follow some hard but effective steps to mending the relationship.

These steps seem like they would worsen the breakup. However the world of relationships is not something that makes sense or follows ordinary logic. Times when you think you should call, you should not. When you think you should be emotional as in a heartbroken poem, you should be more stolid and steadfast.

The first step in fixing things is to accept that you need to break up. Time apart will show both of you how much you want to be together. Even more so, do not communicate, talk, call, send a heartbroken poem, nothing. This extremely hard step will serve to make coming back together even more powerful.

You should not wallow in self pity and sorrow. That leads you to want to send a heartbroken poem and love song. You should be taking other actions, not those. Making changes that fix your relationship should be your goal. You need to figure out what went wrong and change that part of your life. Otherwise your chances of getting back together are slim to none.

It is your task to change and become better. It may seem easier or more appropriate to send a heartbroken poem to get back with the person you love but the timing is wrong. Romantic words and describing your feelings would seem like it should make things better but it is likely to do more harm than good.

The reason a heartbroken poem not working is that your ex-partner will likely take it the wrong way. Such a poem is full of emotion, heart and power. Unfortunately you are shipping this power to your ex as though it should change things. It will make your ex recoil. A heartbroken poem will be taken as a form of emotional black mail, like you are going to “win.” This will only make your ex defensive and recoil away.

You will also seem like you are dismissing your ex and their needs. There might be real problems between you and your ex, which need to be addressed and taken care of. What you end up doing is writing a heartbroken poem hoping that it will solve everything. All you will do is add insult to injury. A poem will not resolve real problems.

The best thing you can do is to give space to your mate and address your problems yourself. Give him or her plenty of space and try not to communicate. If both of you address the problems that are plaguing your relationship, and both of you compromise or change things such that the relationship can come back together, then and only then will things work out. If, however, it turns out that you are the problem in the relationship then it’s up to you to change if you want another chance.

What seems like it should work to repair a broken relationship usually will not work. Work on personal growth instead of trying to fix the relationship through talking, arguing, or sending a heartbroken poem. Only when you both realize and accept the problems in your relationship and you make earnest changes to fix them, will you have a real chance to patch things together.

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