When we think of relationships between two people we usually think of a love relationship. Of course there are other types of relationships, but love relationships are what we’ll concentrate on here.

It is possible to have both love and security in a love relationship, but to base a love relationship on mostly security reasons seems rather one-sided. There are many love relationships that have both love and security, but it’s very unlikely they started out with one of the partners thinking mostly of the security aspect even before the relationship started.

Although I am guessing, most people marry because of love, or at least something approximating love, in most English speaking countries. But it is not unusual to hear someone say something like “I’m going to find me a millionaire to marry” or “when I find a millionaire I’ll get married” or “I want to marry someone who’s wealthy”. I think in most of those cases it’s wishful thinking much more that actually meaning what they say.

Sometimes we want to get together with someone for reasons of financial security instead of it being a love relationship. When women like a man for this reason it’s called a sugar daddy or gold digger. Now those terms don’t even sound like the makings of a love relationship, do they?

For men the phrase is about seeking a sugar momma. The daddy part often means it’s an older man and someone in a protective role. Sugar momma is heard rarely, at least in the parts of the country that I lived and traveled to. This seems even more unlikely to be the makings of a love relationship.

While security feels good, and to many women it is a major factor to consider for a lifetime partner, it is not the same as love or a love relationship. Security is not the best reason to form a commitment with someone for life. The security might be great, but a love relationship based on that is not likely to have the emotions and other things that make for a lasting mutually enjoyable love relationship.

Are you looking for a love relationship where you are spoiled and pampered by someone? Are material possessions, fine dining and luxurious living the main reasons behind your quest for a love relationship? If so, what is the reasoning behind your motives? Those reasons sounds like the love part of a love relationship might have a minor role.

Remember, there is a price to pay if your love relationship is really based on security supplied by your partner only. The sugar momma or daddy may expect romantic favors. It’s almost certain that they will. You could be their “trophy”. They might assume you aren’t able to be your own person and take advantage of that.

Although the enticement of gifts can be a nice treat, there is a cost involved. You need to weigh that cost if you’re the “trophy”. I would also assume receiving gifts all the time gets old, like anything else, and eventually gifts and other enticements will not be enough to keep most people together indefinitely. It sounds like that type of love relationship is doomed to failure.

If you spend some time thinking about the difference between love and security you will see that they are not the same. Its wise to give it a lot of serious thought before you make security the main basis of any love relationship. Look deeply at your choices before you get heavily involved with anyone based mostly or solely on security. After all, a love relationship implies love, and security and love are not truly related.

Copyright © Charles L Harmon

Charles is a software developer. He is also interested in trends of laptop computers. As time permits Self-improvement is a priority with Charles. He has been researching Internet Marketing and has a found some real money saving and money making information products and services.