Is Your Dating Second Place to a Mobile Device?

By Charles L Harmon

No one wants to be in second place when dating someone. How often have you pulled up to a stoplight and glanced around only to find not only one person on their cell phone but two, three, or even more of the other drivers on the road on their cell phones. Imagine how you’ll feel when going on a date and your dating partner is spending a lot of time on the cell phone.

It could be a beeper going off and them quickly making a phone call because of that. It could be a constant ringing of their phone. Or worst yet, them making a bunch of phone calls, on your time, since you’re their date. Whatever, it’s not a pretty scene if you expect to be the center of attention on a date.

Maybe it doesn’t bother you so much, or not at all, but to have your date constantly on the phone during your date is a bit too much. There is a place for everything and a date is not the proper place to be on the phone all the time or maybe even never on the cell phone, depending on circumstances.

Circumstances could be during evening dating, after work, or weekend (assuming your dating partner works weekdays only) dating. They could also be in awkward places such at the movies and his or her cellphone rings. If you’re like me and don’t carry a cell phone or beeper then it could annoy you even more than someone who does.

You can pick up very quickly if you’re with someone who needs to stay in touch with their business via text messaging, e-mails, or constantly answering their cell phone. This can be a good match if you are in the same boat. You can see yourself in that same situation and be more forgiving.

But if you are not inclined to have those little gadgets run your life, you are likely to get irritated. You may feel slighted. You also might feel that you are not special, that his or her work is the highest priority or that the person is addicted to work. Being addicted to work is one thing, but it should not affect your date night out or any other time you’re dating.

Keep in mind this possibly annoying activity of them being on the phone or getting audible beeps on a beeper while on a date may be a habit someone is willing to change. If so, it needs to come from their own initiative. If it doesn’t, you will be the nag and be seen as a constant complainer. If the person mentions that they find their work plays too large a role in their life then this is something they are evaluating and thinking of changing. That could be a good sign.

First, you need to analyze if this habit of your dating partner is an occasional situation based on deadlines at work or if it’s their lifestyle. For someone who takes their mobile devices as an extension of themselves all the time, this is going to be a real competitor. Dating may not make much difference to them.

If you are someone who also stays in touch with your job or feel you would use the time to check in on family members or call friends, then there can be compatibility and this may work out. Some people actually like it if they aren’t “first” so you’d need to check your own personality on this.

Many people, however, feel that dating is the time to get away from responsibilities, work requirements and obligations and would resent someone who constantly has to stay in touch with business associates and concerns. It is best to discuss this with the person if you see it as a pattern within the first few dates. Find out if there is a project at work that is due soon or what their usual relation is to work on the weekends, time off and evenings.

Only you can judge your own personality style to see if you will be okay with dating someone who is tied to work or if you’d find it a constant annoyance. Don’t sell yourself short and settle on annoying mobile device disturbances if you are the kind of person who likes undivided attention. Same goes if you want a romantic partner that keeps their work at work and dating time away from life’s other obligations.

So if you yearn for your date’s undivided attention or want to feel more important than their little mobile device(s) don’t wait for your dating partner to change because they may not. Lack of attention (to you) can get you very frustrated, especially if you want special time away from the world. Think twice if you are playing second fiddle to a small electronic device that your dating partner shows more attention to than you.

Copyright © Charles L Harmon

Charles is a software developer who also writes articles. Charles likes to tinker in the garden in his spare time. He is going to visit different travel destinations to add to his travel list.

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