Win Back Your Ex With A More Confident You

Presented by Twinty Karat

It is only natural for you to be angry at yourself or your ex after a painful breakup or divorce and wish you could win back your ex. You would constantly find yourself caught in the blame game. Whose fault was it really – yours or your ex’s? You are not sure of your feelings, you either feel anger or you want to win back your ex. The feelings of anger, pain, confusion and misery paralyze you and these feelings can sometimes become unbearable.

Sometimes, it’s not easy to leave your comfort zone – your bedroom or your home and you find yourself just staring at the phone, hoping that a call would come from your ex, wanting to just to hear his voice again. And then one day, he does call you, but not really to talk about a reconciliation, but just to say he’ll send someone over to get his stuff! You can’t really put into words this indescribable feeling that your heart is being ripped apart in small pieces when all you want is to win back your ex.

But let’s face it – it’s not only your heart which is badly hurting, but your pride and self esteem as well. You can’t simply believe that you will be replaced with someone less smarter or prettier. You can’t fathom in what he sees in the new girl he is dating. You don’t want to accept that he is dating someone else and you would even build this illusion in your mind that he’s just dating girls to make you jealous.

You can immerse yourself in self pity and keep thinking of the one who got away. On the other hand, you could do something more positive. Let yourself feel the pain but learn from it. Meet up with your friends for coffee, have some bonding with your girlfriends, go to a spa or have a night of karaoke singing (but stay away from the mushy, sad love songs!). Watch a concert or go to the movies with your friends. Do the things you loved doing before you met him like reading books or just loving yourself more.

When you’re ready, ask yourself the question – do you want your ex back? Do a bit of soul searching. If you decide that winning back your ex is worth fighting for, then make a strategy of getting your ex back!

First things first. Whether you decide to win back your ex or move on, work on your self esteem that’s badly bruised at this stage. Remember the woman your ex fell in love with and try your best to bring her back. One day you may just bump into him and he’ll find out what it is he’s missing! He may wonder at this new woman he’s staring at – confident, happy at peace with herself. He might even ask himself why he left you in the first place and start wondering who is making you happy or if you already found new love. It may surprise him to know that all these was because you just found peace and that you started to love yourself more.

Who knows, this new you may even spark a new interest from your ex and he may even try to win you back. But be ready when he does, it may come as a surprise!

If you do decide to move on, your renewed confidence will still do wonders for your self image. Would you not want to look forward to that?