Don’t you sometimes feel frustrated that in your search for the “perfect man”, you end up with guys who are either not into you, engaged to be married, or sadly even gay! Don’t despair, here’s some good news for you. There are still smart, good looking and more importantly available men around. Now for the bad news – you are not properly looking out to meet them.

Yes, it’s true. Women sometimes have very high standards, that they sometimes do not see the right man for them, staring right in front of their faces. This may be true to you, so read on. You may already be with the perfect guy, but he is merely a friend to you, and sometimes, you don’t even notice he exists!

Have you ever stopped to think if the reason why you can’t find what you’re looking for is because you don’t know what you are looking for? Your criteria may be changing all the time, that you may have already met the right one but you were too busy wishing your perfect guy will ask you out.

It’s not about what other girls find attractive, it’s not about your mom choosing the right man for you. It is finding the man whom you feel is right for you, based on your own criteria. In the end, it is you who would decide if he is the right one for you, not your family and definitely not your friends. The decision is yours as it is you who will date this man or even end up living with him the rest of your life.

Learn from your shopping habits – you check what options are available before you finally decide on what you want. You don’t just go bargain hunting and only buy something because it’s cheap and not really because you have a need for it.

Observe the way you purchase your shoes, it may look great but would you buy it if it doesn’t fit you? If the size is way off, it becomes uncomfortable and you simply are not going to buy it even it really looks good. The same way with men! Do not base your choice on what is convenient at the moment – like he is totally attractive or totally rich. What’s the glitch is that this man may turn out to be totally abusive both physically and verbally. Never settle for someone, especially if his values do not really jive with yours. You might be setting up yourself for heartaches because of compatibility issues.

Looks are important and it maybe quite a flattering experience for you if you are seen with a guy whom everybody thinks is hot. But if you see that you don’t share the same values, is it even worth wasting your time on him?

To help you with your search, write down your thoughts and identify the characteristics that you would want in a man. Then divide your list into the “must haves” and the “would like to have”. This makes it easier for you to determine which characteristics are critical for you, like the age, attitude, appearance and commitment. The other “would like to have” list is really more like the extras you would want to find in your man, but you can really live without. Make this a realistic list. Do not put in too much on your ‘must have’ column as you are setting up your standards too high. On the other hand, create a balance so that you don’t really have to settle for things that are just not enough based on your criteria. Be prepared, however, not to get too frustrated if no one even comes close to your list.

After making this list, read it and see if you have written everything that is important to you and from there, you can then set your criteria to work on. So the next time you meet a single guy, see if he fits your list. Always remember that sometimes, you have to be flexible. There is no such thing as perfect relationship.

Relationships are fragile, and always require a lot of effort, patience and love. You might be surprised that the next man you meet is the right man for you, and you will finally find that elusive happiness you had been in search of.