We all come into a relationship with so many preconceived notions, that sometimes we want to validate our opinions on issues by reading romance advices. There are too many questions related to romance, but the truth is, it is difficult to find one answer that suits all. For example, when it comes to jealousy, how much is too little or too much? How can you tell whether a man is really into you or you are just one of his Friday night gigs? You hear or read advice on how to improve your relationships too often that it may get too confusing at times.

With all the so many love tips that you get, it’s easy to end up with several relationship myths, so here’s a brief discussion of five of the most common misguided notions that we could have heard, seen or read that now affects the way we view love:

Relationship Myth 1: Everything about him/her should be lovable.

We usually come into a relationship with a perfect image of the person we would want to end up with. It is usually a very idealistic view of the man or woman we should marry, and usually, trouble starts when we have a hard time reconciling the real picture with the one we have in our minds. Whenever something about your partner annoys you, or does not fit your perfect picture, keep in mind that he is just being real to you and to himself. If you keep finding fault with your partner, you might end up with the second myth below.

Relationship Myth 2: Love means fixing the other person.

You entered into a relationship with this person because of a certain trait that you liked. You should just focus on that positive trait that you found on him, so that you can build a better relationship. Do not focus too much on his imperfections, and girl, don’t even act like his mother, trying to change every little bit about him. He won’t like you for that, for sure!

Relationship Myth 3: You have to give up your favorite things and like what he likes, instead.

When you do this, you are ultimately taking away the things that make you a unique person in the eyes of your partner. A good relationship depends on the unique qualities of both partners. Giving up what makes you unique is detrimental to your relationship and your individuality.

Relationship Myth 4: He’s the knight, you’re the damsel in distress.

Maybe you have lived all your life waiting for that special person to love and take care of you – your knight in shining armor, so to speak. But what will happen if your knight suddenly becomes ill and is not able to care for you any longer? When you are in a relationship, you have to alternate places once in a while. Sometimes you are the knight and sometimes you are in need of one.

Relationship Myth 5: Love is simply a feeling.

For some people, love is supposed to be ecstatic all the time, like floating on cloud nine with a love that’s supposed to “conquer all”. Everything crumbles down, however, when faced with the reality that loving comes with responsibility. True love stays even when the conditions are no longer perfect, like if the other partner is no longer attractive, or no longer financially secure or even healthy. Love is an active thing. It grows, even in the midst of frustrations and difficulties.

Loving relationships are nurtured through time. You would very seldom find perfect relationships, but couples who have learned to love unconditionally have also learned to accept these imperfections and find ways to make their relationships work.

Get over these five common myths of loving and you will appreciate your relationship better with your significant other.