Your Relationship is Important, but don’t Lose yourself in it

Presented by Honey B Wackx

Oh how nice it would be to have a robust and healthy relationship with your partner. Lot’s of us wish for such a wonderful experience, but far less actually have that type of relationship. A few tips are in order to help accomplish such a feat.

Everyone wants to have a healthy relationship with that perfect partner. When you have one, you’ll want to maintain it, but one of the mistakes people tend to make is that they forget about the “me” in their relationship. You really do need some time and attention to yourself so your relationship won’t be all for them.

It’s not healthy to always be around your partner. You need to spend some quality time to yourself so you have more to give your partner. This is a common problem with couples. Even if they’re still in that newlywed stage or have been together for decades the problem often exists.

Some people spend so much time with their partner that they feel lost and alone when they’re alone for any period of time. An example of an older woman who is in our home for elderly people is Nadine. Nadine lost her husband and was lost for many years before she came to live with us. After the grieving was long over she still felt lost because she had been doing everything for and often with her husband for so long. She had been with us some seven years and still feels lost. That’s no way to be.

Here are some ways you can help yourself. These often will ease your mind from the thoughts of your partner so you’re able to give the best to your lover when you’re together:

1. Spend an evening reading that book you’ve been wanting to read. Quiet time at home enjoying a good book without any interruptions can help energize you.

2. Visit your family. Spending time with your family can help you keep a relationship strong. We often slight our own family because of a new love interest or relationship.

3. Play sports or do your favorite activity. There’s no reason you shouldn’t take a day and enjoy what you like doing that you haven’t been able to do with your partner.

4. If you’re a girl enjoy a nice bubble bath. A long whirlpool bath is also good. Pamper yourself. A massage is quite nice for anyone. Make yourself feel good and get energized for the next time you meet up with your partner.

5. Spend time with your friends. It lets you hang loose and be yourself. You need that periodically. If your partner exhibits too much jealousy you might want to reconsider your relationship.

6. Girls like to shop. If you fall into that category then do it. Pick up something nice for yourself. If you choose, you can find something for your partner.

7. Watch a movie that you’ve wanted to see, but your partner wasn’t interested in seeing (like a good murder mystery). Don’t deny yourself something you want to do just because your partner hates it.

A healthy relationship requires considering yourself too. When and if your partner begins to find his own time to himself or herself, allow them the freedom to reconnect to their own soul too. Remember the quality time you allocate to yourself so when your partner does it you won’t have second thoughts and will feel good they are recharging themselves.